Sex Therapy

Sex therapy is a specialized form of therapy designed to help individuals and couples address a wide range of sexual concerns and enhance their sexual well-being. Unlike traditional approaches that emphasize “fixing” problems, our method prioritizes pleasure as the foundation for a fulfilling sexual life. By fostering physical and emotional enjoyment, we help reduce performance anxiety and promote deeper connection and satisfaction.

Our Approach: Prioritizing Pleasure

Many traditional sex therapy models focus on “fixing” problems with sexual desire. However, our approach prioritizes pleasure as the foundation for a fulfilling sexual life. We believe that:

  • Desire often follows pleasure: When you experience physical and emotional pleasure in sexual intimacy, desire naturally increases.
  • Focus on pleasure reduces performance anxiety: By shifting the focus from “performance” to the enjoyment of the experience, we can help you relax and connect more deeply with your partner.
  • Communication about pleasure is key: We guide you and your partner in open and honest communication about your sexual desires and preferences.
  • Experienced and compassionate therapists: Our therapists are highly trained and experienced in providing compassionate and non-judgmental support.
  • Personalized treatment plans: We tailor our approach to your specific needs and goals, ensuring a personalized and effective treatment experience.

Who Might Benefit

Sex therapy is for individuals and couples of all ages and sexual orientations. It can be helpful if you are:

  • Experiencing sexual difficulties
  • Seeking to improve your communication and intimacy with your partner
  • Interested in exploring new aspects of your sexuality
  • Recovering from sexual trauma
  • Simply wanting to enhance your sexual pleasure and satisfaction

Common Conditions Treated

Sex therapy addresses a wide range of sexual concerns, including:

  • Low libido or lack of sexual desire
  • Difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection (erectile dysfunction)
  • Difficulty achieving orgasm
  • Painful sex (dyspareunia)
  • Vaginismus
  • Premature ejaculation
  • Sexual anxiety and performance anxiety
  • Communication problems related to sex
  • Infidelity
  • Sexual trauma

 

Helpful Resources

These resources and tools provide insights into how sex therapy can address various concerns:

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Other organizations:

The Network / La Red – The Network/La Red is a survivor-led, social justice organization that works to end partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, SM, polyamorous, and queer communities. Rooted in anti-oppression principles, our work aims to create a world where all people are free from oppression. We strengthen our communities through organizing, education, and the provision of support services.

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) – The NCSF is committed to creating a political, legal and social environment in the US that advances equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions. The NCSF aims to advance the rights of, and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities. We pursue our vision through direct services, education, advocacy, and outreach, in conjunction with our partners, to directly benefit these communities.

Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) – The Kink And Poly Aware Professionals Directory (KAP) is a service offered by NCSF dedicated to providing the community with a listing of psychotherapeutic, medical, legal and other professionals who have stated that they are knowledgeable about and sensitive to diverse expressions of sexuality.

The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance (TASHRA) – TASHRA is a community-based 501(c)(3) non-profit with the important mission of improving the health and healthcare services of individuals who are involved in alternative sexualities. As champions of Kink competent healthcare,  TASHRA supports empirical research on this misunderstood and often pathologized sexual-minority.

Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS) – CARAS is dedicated to the support and promotion of excellence in the study of alternative sexualities, and the dissemination of research results to the alternative sexuality communities, the public, and the research community.

Kink Knowledgeable – Kink Knowledgeable eLearning Program, in partnership with the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS), provides courses that meet the criteria for Continuing Education for psychologists. CARAS is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists.

Diverse Sexualities Research and Education Institute – DSREI is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit corporation, which promotes, supports, and inspires excellence in research and education on aspects of sexuality, gender, and relationships which are not accepted by the dominant culture.

Multiplicity of the Erotic Conference (MOTE) – The Multiplicity of the Erotic will address a larger range of diversity around sexuality, gender and relationships, focus on the intersections of research, clinical work and professional practice, and present the latest ideas and findings on polyamory, consensual non-monogamies, kink/BDSM sexualities and identities, transgender/genderqueer/nonbinary experiences, asexualities, sex worker studies, hierarchical (power-exchange) relationships, etc.